1. You can be vulnerable.
When you allow yourself to open up you are living authentically. You get to be raw and real. There is beauty in accepting your flaws and that of another. Owning each others’ stories is freeing. It’s in that vulnerability that true love flourishes. If you can share and bear your soul without feeling scrutinized or criticized, this person is a keeper.
“What happens when people open their hearts? They get better.” ~ Haruki Murakami
2. You respect each other.
Mutual appreciation requires a mature level of trust and respect. Respect requires honesty. The truest form of love is how you behave with another in a relationship. In that state of respect you get to share things that you wouldn’t tell anyone. Respect is earned. When you are in a relationship that provides safety and security, you have found your match.
“The moment you put someone on a pedestal they will look down upon you. The trick is respecting each other equally.” ~Teresa Mummert
3. You are not jealous.
You crave time with each other but also require ample space. There is no jealousy in the relationship because you still remain individuals. There is no strain for past insecurities because you feel at ease with, and without, each other all the time. You spend time with friends and apart. Each time you reconnect it is rewarding. There is no co-dependency or possessiveness. You crave to be with each other but it is important to have freedom of expression and separate interests.
“Insecure people only eclipse your sun because they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their dark, starless nights.”~Shannon L. Alder
4. You laugh together.
Being silly comes natural. You can poke fun at each other. Laughter is ever present in your relationship. Many times these type of relationships start as friends. You value each other enough to be yourself. It’s a healthy place. If you can laugh at yourself, with your partner, without holding back the sarcasm, you have something that is beyond special. These types of relationships are destined to be easy.
“No one can be your sun, moon, or stars until you have your own world.”~ K.M.Docherty
5. You raise each other.
You bring each other to the best possible versions of yourselves. You become explorers and adventurers in finding ways to bring joy to one another. You accept everything without feeling judged. It’s in these type of relationships that the best is enhanced. If your relationship is based on admiration and inspiration for each other, you have found a gem in your life.
There is no set manual for relationships but these signs will help get you started. Ultimate, your heart will let you know when you find Mr. or Mrs. Right. Sometimes it might take a few Mr. or Mrs. Right-Now to teach you what you want in a partner. As Psychologist Carl Jung said,“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”